Week 4: Earlier I said that the purpose of meditation is to still the mind. That can create another longing, however, another kind of pain. So for now, let’s look at the purpose of meditation as just to do it: Just to meditate. Close your eyes and focus on the area between your eyebrows (also known as “the third eye”). Do this for five minutes four times a week.
Week 3: Continue the same as in weeks 1 and 2. This week, begin to observe your breath. You don’t need to alter breathing in any way. Just observe your inhalation and your exhalation. Let this observation take precedence over the observation of your thoughts. Your thoughts may persist, but focus your attention on your breath.
In this observation of your breath, all else recedes. The breath, the now, the simplicity of the moment become effortless. Continue this focus for a few minutes, five times this week.
WEEK 2: Practice in this new way three times this week. Begin as in week 1. Continue to maintain your state of one-pointedness while observing any thoughts that may enter. Along with your thoughts, you may now become aware of any feelings that emerge. Often people are afraid to sit still because some feelings they have been running from for ages come into awareness. This is possible. The great thing about this is that, if you allow yourself to feel the feelings for a few minutes, way into the depths of them, rather than ignore them, they will diminish in intensity and begin to ripple way. A new-found peace will be in their place. That is not to say that if you feel the feelings they will never return. It does mean, however, that we are always in a state of change and that, rather than running from what we might be afraid to feel (which in itself is exhausting, unsettling, debilitating, and immune suppressing), it is easier to face the feelings whenever they emerge, thus reaping the repeated benefit of the ensuing peace. There are ever-greater possibilities in this process: The hope of utter silence within, bliss, a deepening sense of oneness with the universe, and a feeling of boundless delight. A new dimension of the self can present a reality more comfortable and peaceful than any on this plane. It is a chance to dance into the infinite with the absolute. Once our fears surface, we can deal with them; in many cases, they go away altogether. Fears come and go as the undulations of your belly in labor, as the rhythmic risings of your uterus.
Meditation is simply a quieting of the mind, with no attachment to the outcome. There are different ways of meditating. What I have chosen to explain here is specifically to prepare you for the meditation of labor and birth. I thought I was going to be learning hypnobirthing, not meditation birthing, you say? You’ve been duped – or are you learning both, and what is the difference? First, let’s look at what hypnobirthing and hypnosis are and what they are not.
Hypnobirthing is done to you from the outside, with your participation and your active permission. You listen to a tape or to someone saying the hypnotic suggestions aloud to you, or you say the hypnotic procedure aloud or silently to yourself. Even if you are not saying the words, you are following the words to be led into a state of relaxation in which you let go of certain thoughts. In meditation, you simply observe. You do not have a script for yourself, nor do you systematically contract and release your muscle groups as you do in hypnosis.
But what can you do through meditation? As you know, we experience life through our five senses – sight, sound, touch, taste and smell – and through our sixth sense, our thought. In order to be still and to be present in the now – not aware of the past, not trying to be aware of the future, but just aware of the present – it is helpful to observe the processes of our senses.
To me, the most crucial aspect of meditation, especially for mothers-to-be, is the quieting of body and mind and the letting go of the outcome, even thought the result is often an approach of the absolute and a healing of mind, body and spirit. It is also a letting go of our long search for satisfaction and an entering into the light beyond the mind.
People who practice some Christian religions believe that meditation goes against their religion, that meditation is a religion in and of itself, or that it is a New Age fad. Those who believe in God and who practice religions that do not promote meditation or are even against it, however, might keep in mind that a sincere meditation practice can improve your conscious contact with the infinite. How can that go against religion
Those who do not believe in God and do believe that meditation is a form of a religion or a theist practice of some sort should remember that meditation brings you in touch with your own peace and freedom and can improve your conscious contact with the grandeur of the infinite blackness. This to me sounds like a connection to the omnipresent now and a deep stillness. Perhaps some of the goals are the same as those of religion, but meditation itself is certainly not a dogma or a religion.
EXERCISE: LEARNING TO MEDITATE
If you follow these simple steps for the next few weeks, you will find yourself falling into your own habits of letting go and relaxing or, if you prefer, meditating. That’s really all meditation is: Sitting and letting your mind/body balance.
WEEK 1: To begin meditation, sit in a chair with your spine straight and feet flat on the floor, hands resting in your lap. You may also rest on your side with a pillow to help support your body, your belly, or anything else that needs to be supported. Turn the telephone off.
Settle yourself in your position, or just sit or lie for one to two minutes before you begin. The purpose of meditation is to still your mind. An easy way to do this is to focus your attention on some point in front of you or above you and then to concentrate on this focal point. If you are like most people, thoughts will continually enter your consciousness. No problem. Just observe the thoughts as you would a balloon floating up into the sky. Do not try to push the thoughts away, and don’t try to hold on to them. Just continue to observe them without judgment. Do this for about five minutes, three times the first week.
Hypnofertility, hypnobirthing, babymoon, mind/body wellness and mindfulness. Is there a pathway that connects one person to another and that facilitates greater understanding and compassion?
Could it be that meditation can inspire your mental and physical health and add to the peace and serenity of those in your immediate environment?
What are your thoughts on this and are you willing to try a simple experiment to test the effectiveness of meditation?
his kids about the birds and the bees. During his wife Sandra Denis’ pregnancy, the artist created hilarious explanatory photo series titled “How to Make a Baby”.
The creative couple planned and carried out their project throughout the whole period of 9 months, taking pictures in the exact same settings as Sandra’s belly expanded. The pregnancy saga of Sandra and Patrice basically denounces all the traditional cabbage and the stork stories.
1. Upon awakening: Eat a few Crackers with slightly salty taste
2. Eat 5 or 6 very small meals daily (fermented foods can be very healing)
An empty stomach has more acid and can cause more nausea.
3. To prevent dehydration:
2 teaspoons sugar
Juice of ½ lime
Pinch of salt
1 pint ginger water (Cut a small piece (thumb size) of fresh ginger ,put in 1 pint of water, bring to a boil , let stand to cool, remove ginger and you have ready to use Ginger Water
Drink 1 cup every 2 hours to eliminate dehydration and help nausea and vomiting to subside
4. Soak 10 raw / unroasted almonds in water overnight, peel skin in morning and eat almonds very slowly as you listen to Healing Chakra CD. This is a good source of calcium and calms nausea.
5. In early morning walk around block focusing on breathing in fresh air slowly.
6. Massage your entire body with or without oils, unscented sunflower oil, sesame oil or coconut, then take nice warm shower and rest for 20 minutes, listening to Healing Chakra CD. (Call or email us to order CD – $20 U.S.)
7. Coconut water: Add 1 tsp fresh lemon juice to 1 cup of pure coconut water. Sip every 15 minutes to settle stomach.
8. Rose water: Put 1 drop in a cupful of milk. Boil milk, cool to warm and sip.
9. At night take a cup of whole milk with 1 teaspoon of Ghee (clarified butter) and this should help to prevent sickness the next morning. (This treatment may be too heavy for some.)
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Connect with other people on our blog and if you live near each other start a walking group or a stroller stroll or breastfeeding group, a book group, a parenting discussion group a babysitting exchange or depending on your age and physical well being whatever suits your abilities. If you are a senior perhaps volunteer to read stories to kids at the library. Spiritual groups, Alanon, AA, Dog parks are also healthy ways to socialize. Can you think of creative cost free ways to connect and get sufficient social support? Please feel free to share your ideas.
“The common name “Columbine” comes from the Latin meaning “dove”, due to the resemblance of the inverted flower to five doves clustered together.”
We also pray for effective gun control and for parents to protect their children from playing violent video games and for Hollywood to cease making their violent films. What’s the point??
“Bringing Peace to the World One Baby at a Time”
This poem was written after COLUMBINE – it is, unfortunately appropriate once again. Whoever reads this, please feel free to forward it and to put it on social media in its entirety and with no changes.
Thank you and Peace be with you.
Real men don’t cry, they weep into the barrel of their guns,
Real men don’t cry, they rip joy from our bellies
Like great birds of prey…
Guys and dolls
Girls and dolls
Boys and dolls
Sorry, boys and guns
Football and hard padded bodies
Rolling around on 100 yards of mother earth
Patting each other’s buttocks, afraid to hug each other
It’s too un-American.
Guns and peace
Guns and penises
Power and lack of it
Blood spilled everywhere, the East and the West.
Apache helicopters, once Native Indians
Now American war planes
Ethnically cleansing other lands.
Clean up the blood at home
Sever the umbilical cords gently
Do not tear them from their mothers so soon
Do not educate them in your womb
Sing to them!
Do not send them to the computer at three
While you shop on channel T.V.
Do not send them to the video arcades
While you go off to dinner without them
They cannot dine on virtual reality.
Set the banquet table under a wide Magnolia tree
Sit with Grandma and Aunt Nellie, Uncle Manny and Sister Kate
Sit with mommy and daddy
Sit in the sun or in the shade
And let yourself be bored by the sounds of the birds and the gentle caress of the breeze.
Let yourself be bored by one more family story old or new.
Time does not exist anymore
Bombs and guns are blowing it apart
Executing a temporal abruptio, a hemorrhaging throughout the land.
There are no special moments, no languorous hours
Time is gone.
It is no longer spent, it is only bought.
There is Rolex time and Cartier time
T.V. time and movie time
There is internet time and space time and lost time and dying time.
Where is the sweet scented time of the Columbine
The real time, the time of healing
The time that we all need to spend with each other
Rocking chair time, breast feeding time
Silent time, weaving time, indigenous time.
Where is the I be sittin here time?
©Michelle O’Neill, 1999
Michelle Leclaire O’Neill Ph.D., R.N., www.leclairemethod.com
Meditate and/or listen to your pregnancy or labor CD or your Healing, Health and Peak Performance CD (for all who are or are not pregnant.). (This CD was used in a research project at USC Medical Center to decrease anxiety pre surgery and promote healing post surgery.)